What Not To Do And Say To An Expectant Mother
Before diving into the territory of advice, bear in mind that etiquette regarding expectant mothers depends very much on the culture you are in. Individualistic cultures that emphasize privacy expect people to mind their own business and step lightly even around congratulating them. Among strongly communal cultures, the birth of a baby is a momentous occasion of everyone, and the mother’s health is everyone’s business. Remember therefore that, the following tips are not a catch-all for all situations out there.
Greeting the MammaIf you meet an expectant mother out of the blue and her pregnancy is not yet obvious, avoid commenting on it until she mentions it herself; she may not want people to know or may be shy about spreading the news. For that matter, if you do not know, do not press her for confirmation for the same reasons as above. If you absolutely must know, then tactfully ask a question that they can easily sidestep if they want to. Don’t start blabbing about a baby shop online in Singapore that you saw the other day and how it has the cutest rompers.
Receiving the NewsIf you’ve been told about a pregnancy at all then count yourself lucky that the parents want you in the know. However, avoid definitive statements, advice and suggestions for the future of the baby as it is quite possible that you may not be intimately connected with the life of the little one. If you are already thinking about a newborn baby gift, then please keep it to yourself. Try to gauge the mood of the bearer of news and respond appropriately. Offering to help in any capacity you can is a neutral way of handling the news that is appropriate for either scenario. If you are interested about gifts for baby shower you can visit this site http://www.lillieandluca.com/about-us.html.
Being InvolvedTake your cues from the parents and try not to impose yourself on to the family no matter how interested you are in their news. Even if you are a frequent visitor, the mother may not appreciate you always commenting on her growing belly, or empathizing with her when you really cannot and offering unsolicited advice. Treat her and her partner with the respect and the space they require to adjust to an additional member of the family and do not add to the social pressure they must be feeling already.
Offering SupportThis is the one thing that you can do but again, not too much. Modern mums sometimes resent the attitude that they are helpless once they get pregnant and might take offense at the drop of a feather. Be tactful about offering to help and do let them do the smaller things that they can do. If there are bigger things like organizing events, running back and forth to places or daily drop-offs that you can do instead of her, feel free to volunteer.